I am so over dating
November 28, 2006 at 4:27 pm | In boys, life | 5 CommentsI’ve been single for about 3 1/2 years, since my college boyfriend and I broke up the summer after our graduation. After proclaiming that I was done with boys, done with dating (something I say roughly 10 times a year), and nursing a broken heart and a bruised ego, I jumped back into the dating pool. Or maybe I waded in gingerly after dipping my toe in to test the water, I don’t know. Either way, I kind of feel like I’m done with it for now.
I’m in no hurry to get married and, as I don’t even know if I want kids, children are not on my radar. I currently live in Toronto but God knows where I’ll be in a year. The nonexistence of a biological clock and my geographical uncertainty are excellent and convenient excuses for stepping out of dating, but the real reason is that I just don’t think I can go through it all again right now.
In the past year, I’ve ended one 6-month long-distance relationship, slept with a guy not even old enough to legally drink in the U.S., hooked up with a couple of my classmates, dated a guy who decided I was scum when I drunkenly made out with his best friend after the World Cup final, met a guy I really liked who gave me the “I’m just not ready for this” speech, and finally, had to hurt someone I didn’t want to hurt in order to do what was right for me.
So, I figure that I’ve put in enough time and done enough damage to earn a bit of a respite. I cannot go through another “Oh my God I really like him” that turns into a “well, I still really like him, and even though it turns out he’s really into drugs/money/Jesus, I’m gonna keep trying anyway because our love will see us through,” which is really just another way of trying to jam a square peg into a round hole (and we all know how well that works), or another “Oh my God I really like him but I don’t think he’s really that into me,” or another “I’m not really that into him but I think he’s reeeeeaaaaally into me.” I just can’t do it.
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Poor you. I am glad you got through the last few days ok. You definitely made the right choice. Also, in reference to your last post, can you seriously say that being emotional is not “you”? Sure it is. It’s just a difficult part. Do I sound like Meredith Grey?
Comment by Lorien — November 29, 2006 #
I suspect that Lorien actually wants to sound like our lovable Dr. Grey…
Tasha, I have to say. You set an example of being able to look at the big picture and do what is right. Not many people can lay claim to that. You have acted with nothing but class and decency, and well, that means a lot.
Comment by alli — November 29, 2006 #
Boys suck and that’s how it goes. One day you’ll find a boy the is more of an ovel to your round whole and he might widdle himself to fit your circle or visa versa or a bit of both. But til then, yet you are alowd to throw in the towel for a while.
Comment by Aundra — November 29, 2006 #
Actually, I think Tasha sounds like Meredith. And despite the fact that she gives up men all the time, she still gets to make out with really handsome ones…all the time. So, I figure sounding like her can’t be too much of a bad thing.
Comment by heather — November 30, 2006 #
Aquí está el artículo en la lengua española iguales temáticos. Gran trabajo!
Comment by e-baka — December 14, 2006 #